Healthy Selfish Is Good For Our Personal Budgets

By Alice March

Healthy selfishness is a good thing. The word selfish has gotten a bad rap in our culture. The dictionary says selfish is "concerned chiefly with oneself or excessive regard for one's personal advantage or interest." Stop to think what this really means and then ask yourself, "if we don't take care of ourselves, who will?" Giving ourselves healthy attention means that we have personal living codes that include getting proper nutrition, rest, exercise and whatever we need to be productive, creative and financially stable.

I think too many of us have relinquished our selves in our financial life; we let others look out for our financial interests, by either denying our responsibility or just letting someone else do it for us. As we begin to realize that our financial shape is really a reflection of how we feel about ourselves, we have to be more than conscious and selfish about choosing a team to give us direction and support. Most of us did not have role models who showed us how to invest in ourselves and in our future. This sort of thinking didn't exist. I do remember that my mother suggested to my father, when I was in high school, that they put me on a clothes allowance. My father said that he didn't see the need for that. I wish he had. I probably would have gone through many trials and errors earlier and become more fiscally aware and more skilled at budgeting expenses.

Healthy people find mentors who are fiscally well and successful. Put a team in place, a team to help you with the present and the future of your finances. Feeling vulnerable, admitting you need help, is actually a very powerful place, for it's a place of learning and acceptance. Ask yourself if you're getting the kind of attention that makes you feel safe, visible, supported. Or do you get the kind of attention that makes you feel dismissed, ignored, unequal?

Healthy living means reducing the stress in your life. One way to do this is to think carefully about the financial questions you ask and be sure you understand the answers you get. When you're selfish enough to give yourself the kind of attention that brings you the best of support, encouragement and knowledge, you'll decrease your stress level, sleep better at night and enjoy the end of your months more!!!

Alice Aspen March, Expert on Impact of Attention, TheAttentionFactor(R).
aa.march@verizon.net Speaker, Published Author, Workshop Leader, Exec. Dir. of Non-Profit, FACT: impact of TV on Children and Families; kept Fred Rogers Neighborhood on the air as Chair of KCET Community Advisory Board, Co-Produced Emmy-nominated, Latch-Key Kids, narrated by Christopher Reeve; appointed by Calif. State Senate to two State Commissions.

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