How To Hold A Woman's Interest After Approaching Her

By Diante Duval

Learning the art of approaching women can be a daunting task in and of itself. However, it is arguably harder to maintain a woman's interest after the initial approach has been made. Time and time again, men will work up the nerves to say hello to a female and then immediately proceed to shoot themselves in the foot by saying something utterly insane.

So, how can men avoid this fate and turn a brief encounter with a complete stranger into something a little bit more? Well, at the end of the day, it all boils down to: adaptability, confidence, humor, and intelligence. Now, keep in mind, not everyone will be strong in all the mentioned attributes. However, having a nice mix of them will certainly go a long way - personally and socially.

Adaptability. This is an extremely important concept. Like previously mentioned, everyone will not be strong in all of the attributes listed earlier. In a similar manner, not every woman will responded the same way to all of those traits. Some women will place more emphasis on humor... For others, it might be confidence. The key thing is being able to adapt to what she is most interested in. However, if she is clearly a ditz, feel free to cut it short and move on to the next female. In that case, adaptability means knowing when to cut the conversation short and get out of there with cat-like swiftness.

Confidence. This is fairly straight to the point. Women love men who display confidence. Swagger is probably a more apt term. When females notice this, it makes the job of approaching them and holding their interest exponentially easier. When you talk to her, make constant eye contact. And whatever you do, make sure you avoid awkward silence. If you have a problem with talking to a beautiful women try a mental trick that will reduce her status. In other words, try not to look at her as a beautiful woman that might shoot you down. Instead, picture her simply as a colleague from work or better yet, an ex-girlfriend. The key is to place her in a imaginary position that you are comfortable with.

Humor. No one really knows why, but if you can make a female laugh, half of the battle is already over. Humor is one of the top attributes that women look for in a male companion. Again, looking into the eyes of a gorgeous female might make it a little more challenging to be your normal, witty and humorous self. However, If a few shots of liquid courage (i.e. alcohol) doesn't loosen you up, then you might want to try what we discussed earlier about lowering her status in your eyes.

Intelligence. Females often lump mental stimulation in the same category with physical arousal. This becomes much more evident as women get older. Plenty of ladies will confess that nothing is hotter than talking to a guy who can challenge their views, offer a wealth of information, or engage in thought provoking discourse. It just goes to show you that there is no such thing as wasted knowledge.

Remembering the key points (adaptability, confidence, humor, and intelligence) will prove extremely valuable in the future as you perfect your techniques. Keep this in mind and approaching women (plus holding their interest) won't be nearly the challenge that it is now. With enough practice, it could become second nature to you.

Diante Duval runs the Art of Approaching Women Review, a site dedicated to helping men learn the art of approaching women successfully. On his website, he offers practical advice, easily implemented strategies, book analysis, and personal advice crafted from experience. To find out more about overcoming fears of rejection and learning the art of approaching women with unshakable confidence and magnetizing swagger, visit www.artofapproachingwomenreview.com