Fear of Being Afraid - How You can Overcome It

By Corinne Casazza

Fear is an inherent urge that we historically carried to protect us. It's still useful in some instances today, for instance, when you avoid walking down a dark alley for fear of who could be lurking there. Yet when fear becomes an overwhelming theme in your life, and you're afraid of everything from losing your job to spiders to not being a good parent or spouse, it interrupts the natural joy of life.

Whatever you're afraid of, the underlying battle is not with the object or the situation, but rather with the fear itself.

"Fear is always false evidence appearing real. So fear always feeds on itself," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training at Sedona Training Associates.

In other words, the more you focus on fear, and on the things that could go wrong, the what ifs and the imaginary monsters hiding under your bed, the more real they become. And the more you draw those instances into your experience.

In reality, your fear is nothing more than unsettled, negative emotions that you allow to surface.

"What is most important to realize is that fear is simply a feeling -- not a fact and not who you are -- and you can let it go no matter how strong it seems to be," Dwoskin says.

Our fears and doubts make us defensive and cause us to think about what we don't want -- so that's what we get. As you release your defensiveness, you see solutions instead of problems, and your fear suddenly disappears. You can learn exactly how to release your fears and defensiveness by learning the scientifically proven Sedona Method.

In short, the key to overcoming fear is to overcome your belief that you should be afraid.

"You must let go of the expectation that's built into the fear," Dwoskin says. "If you're afraid of public speaking, for example, let go of the expectation of making a mistake or having the audience not like you. Also, remember that no matter how strong the fear may be you can always let it go and feel -- and actually be -- safer now."

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