Does Honesty Hurt Relationships?

By CD Mohatta

Does honesty help a relationship or it hurts a relationship? This question bothers many of us when it comes to revealing something serious. Shall I tell him/her about the last night? What if things go wrong? How to tell? What if I do not tell but he/she comes to know about it? So many questions hammer us when we want to hide truth. And revealing truth may be equally serious in our opinion. So what should be done?

If we are not totally honest and open with our beloved, that means we are not sure about our relationship. That means that we do not have confidence in each other. That means that the relationship is fragile. Why worry about a relationship, which is fragile. Such a relationship will break for some or other reason.

A strong relationship can take any storm. In a strong relationship, we are ready for some disagreement but know that ultimately things will be same as be fore. In a strong relationship we are totally open with each other. We tell everything to our partner and are sure that no break-up will occur. Such relationship gives joy.

If you hide something from your partner you will always suffer from the guilt and worry about hat if he/she gets to know about that. That is not a happy relationship. Such relationships cause stress, rather than giving any pleasure. To get pleasure, have confidence, tell your partner everything about your past, and expect that they will not only understand but also comfort you about that. That is the sign of a open and strong relationship. There is another way out. Draw boundaries and agree about them with each other. I may do some thing in this area but you have no right to know about that. If such an agreement is drawn and agreed upon by the partners many problems get solved. But this kind of relationship is not close. Have your choice about what you want to do.

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Is Honesty The Best Policy?

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD

Nearly everyone agrees, Honesty is the best policy. Yet, when push comes to shove, many people tell a little white lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings, or facing oneself. This article discusses the rationale of little white lies, and if - when a white lie is acceptable.

No matter how insignificant you might think a ‘little white lie’ (dishonesty) has on the relationship, the energy of a ‘little white lie’ looms between you and the other person. You might argue that 'little white lies' (untruths) are harmless. However, they are like small cracks that weaken the overall structure in the long term. Even giving someone a false compliment or ostensibly protecting someone can create problems later when the alternate reality you created becomes the basis for further interactions. Even though all future actions may be honest, the underlying unstable foundation of a ‘little white lie,’ (dishonesty) will threaten to derail an otherwise good relationship. This then leads to further energy being spent on keeping things hidden, working to remember the ‘little white lies’ you have told and fearing the consequences of being found out. Your relationships then becomes a tiring and draining experience.

Speaking and living your truth, involves risking, and among other things, the possibility of rejection. However, when you allow yourself to follow the honest flow of life, you are supported by the universal law of cause and effect. You can then use your energy to cultivate physical, emotional and spiritual well-being and to create your dreams, rather than leaving yourself vulnerable to being drained and overwhelmed with keeping the web of dishonest puzzle pieces coherent.

When you speak the truth, you affirm what already is. Speaking your truth is analogous to using a paddle when the stream is already moving the same direction. You are already supported by the universe and its energy flow, so you do not need to exert extraordinary energy, thus leaving more energy for other pursuits. Energetically, dishonesty redirects your energy against the flow, which requires extra effort. In addition, dishonesty creates an alternate reality that requires further energetic attention to be maintained.

Thus, you can readily see that you are best served when you work with the flow of the universe.
You can make the choice to be free of the burden of dishonesty at any time. Today is the first day of the rest of your life--Begin today to choice honesty in every interaction, bringing the nurturing power of the universe’s energy into your life brings lasting positive results.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net