Twin Flames, Soul Mates & New Age Romance - More Myth Than Reality

By Scott Petullo

The only truly fulfilling and perfect love is self-love.
Many of us want to find our “soul mate,” a term often used to imply that there is one perfect partner for each individual. Metaphysically defined, a soul mate is simply someone you have known in a prior existence. Each person may have hundreds or even thousands of soul mates.

Edgar Cayce, one of the most successful psychics and medical intuitives ever in the United States, stated many times that there isn’t just one person out there who is perfect for you. He expressed in his readings that there are many love relationship possibilities for each person.

When you meet a soul mate, you may feel like you know the person but you can’t quite place from where. Your souls knew each other in a different time and place, although your present personalities usually don’t remember the details. You may have been lovers, siblings, relatives, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, or even enemies. You may instantly like or even love the person, or you may instantly dislike him or her.

Soul mate relationships that develop into love relationships take many different forms, depending on the karmic reasons the couple has reunited again. The present life interaction also depends on how much of their own baggage they’ve worked through, how much they take responsibility for their behavior and their lives, and how aware and honest they are with themselves and others.

There is always a reason for two souls reuniting. It may be due to unfinished business, such as one owing the other in some important way. It may be in the form of a project they are to complete together, such as the birth of and caring for a child. Sometimes it’s a test, to see if they can interact without hurting each other.

Some souls reunite simply for the purpose of enjoying each other again and have little or no negative karma to work through. They may have earned this relationship of harmony through many lifetimes of working through their conflicts. These are the kind of relationships sometimes portrayed in romance novels. Many of us fantasize about having these kinds of relationships, where there’s little conflict and an excess of love, admiration, acceptance, and respect. Few of us, unfortunately, experience them.

A twin flame or soul has been defined as a soul who was created at the same time as you and who may be your “other half.” Based on our research we feel this definition of twin souls is the result of earthbound thinking. We don’t “pair off” with only one partner in the spirit world.
Pairing off here on Earth and hoping for a lifetime relationship with the same partner often seems motivated by a fear of being alone and/or a fear of abandonment.

A different definition of a twin soul could be a soul mate with which you have shared many lifetimes and, through those experiences, perfected the relationship. This soul is one of the most ideal soul mates for you—assuming you both get your current personalities and hang-ups out of the way.

In his book Edgar Cayce on Soul Mates, Kevin J. Todeschi suggests yet another definition: “The primary distinction between soul mates and twin souls is that soul mates are brought together as a means of assisting both people in soul growth and twin souls often come together in an effort to achieve a joint task or a united work.”

Cayce also indicated that twin souls are not always romantically involved and that there is more than one twin soul for each person.

Hence, while most people associate a soul mate with romance, the main purpose has to do with personal growth, often through trials and challenges. In fact, many of our clients who have been in soul mate relationships say they are hesitant to get into another one, yet they realize that they’re here on earth primarily to learn, not just to get what feels good.

(Additional information about soul mates and twin flames can be found here:
http://www.howisyourlovelife.com/about_the_book.htm )

How do you know you’ve found a relationship soul mate? Sometimes it involves intense feelings from the very start, other times it’s not so obvious. Are you sexually compatible? Is there lots of passion in your relationship? What about trust and mutual respect? Do you share the same views about love and relationships? It’s possible to determine how compatible you are with another person through numerology, astrology, handwriting analysis, and past life regression.

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Scott Petullo has been professionally employed as an astrologer, numerologist, and certified handwriting analyst since 1997. He has a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Arizona and has been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980's. Scott is a self-taught astrologer and numerologist, and received his Certified Master Graphologist designation from the Institute of Graphological Science in Dallas, Texas. http://www.mystictwins.com http://www.scottpetullo.com

Stephen Petullo has studied metaphysical concepts since the early 1980s and earned a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Arizona that includes a minor in psychology. He has been doing consultations and intuitive readings professionally since 1997. He is a Reiki master-teacher, past-life regressionist, natural medium and channel, metaphysical consultant and has published a book and 20 audio recordings.