Seven Ways to Leave Your Lover

By Ron Ulrici

Paul Simon immortalized the many ways we can split the sheets with our partners, but how to leave your lover is not as important as when. My wife took 23 years to leave me, a practicing alcoholic at the time. That's 8,395 days that she will never recover. When she finally made the break, she just walked out. She took nothing but the clothes on her back. Her quality of life improved immediately and she has since retired to a tropical paradise with her current husband, a very fine gentleman.

We are all aware of the battered wives who stick with their man (brings up another song title, doesn't it?). Most people scratch their heads with no or little understanding of why women just don't leave. I believe that it involves addiction, attraction to the bad boy syndrome, and the "I can change him factor."

Whatever the reason, the quicker the fine lady just leaves him, the better. Of course, counseling and membership in support groups are necessary for the woman to root out the primary cause for her malady and fix it for good.

First things first: surgery is required. Remove the offending tumor (him) and then she can get radiation treatment to prevent reoccurrence.

The surgery must be radical. In other words, no compromises can be made. The patient is prone to forgive and forget too easily. When he promises that he is going to change, our heroine suffers from instant amnesia about the bad times, of which, there has been many. "OK, you can sleep on the couch until you find a place of your own," becomes one of the compromises she often makes. No, he must go.

Another recovering alcoholic and I created a program to help women in this endeavor. We feel because we were "the bastards," that we are imminently qualified to help women "pull the plug." Here are some simple instructions on how to do it.

7 tips on how to make it happen:

1. List all of your excuses why you don't to "it" and vow to never use these excuses again.
2. Make a list of the times he abused you.
3. Prepare a list of all the positive things that will happen when he is out of your life.
4. Develop Affirmations designed to keep your resolve. Say them several times a day.
5. Prepare strategies and tactics on how you will execute the leaving.
6. Schedule a fixed date and create a support system to guarantee execution on that date.
7. Leave and don't look back.

It sounds easy, but it is hard to do. Most of the things that we need to do in life are simple. You want to lose weight? Eat less and exercise more. Simple. So, why can't millions of people do it? The answer is also simple - deep rooted psychological reasons. That's it.
Simple, but hard to get in there and solve.

We all need help to slay our demons and achieve our dreams. Help comes in many forms. As former bastards, we want to help the millions of women who are mired in bad relationships. We know it is hard to leave any relationship especially that bad boy who you were wildly attracted to.

In the meantime, check out Al-Anon. Alanon is the all-time best support group for women who are living with a drunk husband or an alcoholic boyfriend. Find an Al-Anon meeting on-line and start attending meetings. If you are still wondering if "he" is an alcoholic, go on-line and type in alcohol abuse symptoms in your browser.

Ron Ulrici has been in recovery for over 20 years. He has been a faithful member of 12 step programs since 1986. He has a Masters Degree in Human Behavior and has been a Human Resources professional in industry since 1966. http://www.justleavethebastard.com Ron and his partner Steve have created The One-Step Program of Ron-Anon to free millions of women living with drunken bastards. Sign up for his free monthly newsletter "Musings from the Bastard" at http://justleavethebastard.com/Newsletter.htm or purchase the "Just Leave the Bastard Workbook" at http://justleavethebastard.com/Store.htm

Miami for Art Lovers - Miami Offers More Than Sun and Sand

By Carlos Giraldo

It may be famous for sun and sand, but Miami also has a thriving arts community. Whether you prefer performing arts, fine arts, or historical treasures, you’ll find world-class arts just around the corner.

Film fans know that Miami is the place to see groundbreaking films. The most famous is the Miami International Film Festival, a star- studded showcase for Latin American, North American and world cinema. If you prefer live theater, Miami offers a range of venues, with the Coconut Grove Playhouse, Actor’s Playhouse, and the Jackie Gleason Theater as the most well- known. Music lovers will enjoy the incredible variety in Miami, including performances by the Florida Grand Opera, the Miami Symphony Orchestra, the Murray Dranoff International Two Piano Competition, and the Miami Bach Society, as well as contemporary performances by the biggest stars in the entertainment and music world. Dance lovers will enjoy the world-acclaimed Miami City Ballet and the contemporary Dance Now! Ensemble.

Fine art enthusiasts will find galleries, festivals, and studios throughout the city of Miami. The Coconut Grove Arts Festival is one of the largest and most prestigious outdoor fine arts and crafts festivals in the United States. Art Basel Miami Beach is a new type of cultural event, combining an international art show with an exciting program of special exhibitions, parties and crossover events that include music, film, architecture and design.

Historic treasures, from local to international, can be found at the cultural and art museums in Miami. The Miami Art Museum presents international art of the 20th and 21st centuries. Permanent exhibits at the Lowe Art Museum include Italian Renaissance and Baroque, Greco-Roman Antiquities, 17th-21st century Art of the Americas and Europe, and Asian, African and Native American art. The Vizcaya Museum and Gardens is an extraordinary European-inspired estate and National Historic Landmark, which includes a house filled with art and furnishings, and ten acres of gardens on Biscayne Bay.

If you are traveling to Miami, CRSHotels.com has the ideal hotel for you. Choose the Winterhaven, the Colony, the Kent, the National, the Palms, or the Bentley Beach. Stay at the Shelborne Beach Resort, Hotel St. Augustine, the Richmond Hotel, or the Clinton Hotel & Spa. Enjoy the Bentley, the Blue Moon, the Sovereign Oceanfront, the Best Western Atlantic Oceanfront, or the Beacon. Try the Essex House, Haddon Hall, the River Park Hotel & Suites, the Clevelander, or the Hotel St. Michel.

How to Check Suspicious Phone Numbers - Catch a Cheating Lover

By Gerry Restrivera

There are always tell-tale signs that he or she is cheating you. Warning signs may include changes in your spouse’s routine and behavior. These changes maybe slight or something obvious and he/she will deny or dismiss the subject at once when confronted. But what if there are unexplained phone calls or strange phone numbers appearing repetitively on the phone bill or even on the mobile phone statement? You found numbers that appears more than once in your lover’s cell phone but isn’t saved in the address book. Isn’t that suspicious? How would you know if something is going on? There are things that you can do to check suspicious phone numbers.

Cheating and infidelity seems to be so common, there are reports that 12%-25% of women cheats and 22%-40% of men cheats. That is a very scary realization if you are in a relationship. If you found a suspicious number that keeps appearing in his cell phone, do not ignore it but do something to check suspicious phone numbers. Save yourself from future hurt and turmoil.

Your impulse would be to confront your spouse or your lover to check suspicious phone numbers, but in most cases if he/she is cheating, you will get no explanation or he/she will just dismiss the subject at once. There are also cases that this questioning will end up in ugly fights and confrontations.

Another urge maybe is to call and check suspicious phone numbers and find out the owner of the number, but of course that’s too scary, what if the number turned out to be a false alarm? You will put yourself and your spouse in a very ugly situation.

So what is the solution? Have you heard of reverse phone look up? You can check suspicious phone numbers and find out other important information about the number. You can search through the database the name, address and other records about the number in question.

It's time you knew the truth and end your worries. Download your search results instantly for any phone number. No one will ever know about your search-- the information will be held strictly confidential. Run your reverse phone look up now and check suspicious phone numbers at Reverse Phone Detective

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