Trying To Please Everyone At Your Wedding

By Kathleen Terrana

Let's face it. It's in our nature, as women, to try and make everyone happy. And even at our own wedding, we want the day to be as perfect as possible for everyone involved. On the very first day you begin your wedding planning, you need to remind yourself that trying to please your fiancé, your mother, his mother, your bridesmaids and everyone else 100% of the time is impossible. Make a promise to yourself that you accept this ahead of time and will not drive yourself crazy trying to please everyone.

Everyone has an opinion. If you have your heart set on a red wedding gown, some of your guests will admire your dramatic choice and others will disapprove. Do it anyway. If you set up an online "honeymoon fund," asking for a specific amount of money for massages, this will raise the eyebrows of your more conservative guests. Others will be delighted that their "gift" will bring you so much pleasure.

Sometimes an extended family member will try to impose his or her own traditions on you. For example, a great aunt may request that you wear a bridal veil or jewelry that has been worn by other family members at their weddings. In this case, it is acceptable to offer a compromise. By offering to wear the earrings, you keep the tradition in place. If everything offered looks awful, just be gracious and say no, thank you. If your fiancé's mother pulls him aside and gives him a list of family traditions based on their heritage, he needs to make clear that the two of you are partners and make all your decisions together.

Don't ride the guilt train. Listen to suggestions. You'll be getting plenty of them. If someone's brother is a part time photographer, and you'd rather hire a first class professional, make your decision and don't beat yourself up over it. You might offend someone temporarily, but you can show him or her some small kindness, and everything will be well again. Listen to your heart. Accept those suggestions that you like, and reserve the right to make your own wedding decisions.

Kathleen Terrana is the owner of http://www.beautiful-bridal.com Beautiful Bridal specializing in discount tiaras, veils, bridal and bridesmaid jewelry. Visit our site for additional tips, advice and information.