Sexy Shape-Up Secrets

Workout tips from Carmen Electra's trainer.
by Kate Dailey for ExerciseTV

You need a body-boosting workout but you don't have time to spend hours in the gym. Celebrity trainer Michael Carson feels your pain. His client Carmen Electra doesn’t have a lot of time to spend doing squats either. Carson’s solution? Spend as little time as possible working out—and avoid exercise moves you hate.

To follow Carson’s advice, you need to maximize your gym time with a series of dynamic movements that tone muscle, increase flexibility, and burn calories. That means giving tried-and-true exercises a mobility makeover and using more muscles at once.

Carson calls his workout system “rotational”--think of it as three-dimensional body movement. You’re not just moving back and forth and side to side, but in all directions. “It gives you a lot of muscular use with very little impact, and it helps prevent injury,” Carson says. “It’s all about fluidly increasing circulation, improving metabolism, burning calories, and doing everything with one movement.” Sounds good to us.

Follow his tips for a body you’ll want to show off:

Twist and shout: Crunches and traditional core exercises shorten your torso and can actually do more harm than good for your posture. “The more you twist and stretch, the more you make your muscles elongated. Traditional abs training shortens them,” he says. Carson emphasizes moves that encourage full range of motion, like the HELICOPTER SQUAT. Not only do they make you look longer and leaner, they can help prevent injury as well.

Don’t ignore your core: Everybody knows the importance of core training to increase stability, posture and strength. But do you know what your “core” is? If you think abs and back, think again. “Your core goes down below your thighs, almost to your knees,” says Carson. It’s made up of many muscles that all work together to keep you stable and strong. That’s why when you work out, you should engage them all in tandem instead of trying to spot train. Try moves like the BENT OVER PRESS to give your core a real-life workout.

Posture makes perfect: How you stand when executing a move can impact how your muscles fire, which in turn can hinder the effect of your workout. When lunging, keep your weight on your heels and squeeze your glutes for maximum impact, says Carson. Throughout your workout, shift your weight from the ball of your foot to the pads of your feet. Pay attention to which muscles are firing as you move, as well as which moves challenge you more. (If it hurts, don’t push it; check with a trainer to ensure you’re not setting yourself up for injury.)

Ugly moves have pretty results. It’s a natural impulse to want to check yourself out in the mirror when you’re working out. But doing so can sometimes hurt, not help, your form. “To do a squat properly, you want to lower your shoulders to the same degree that you’re lowering your hips,” says Carson. The result can be a move that looks awkward, but it’s better for you.

“Otherwise, you’re putting too much pressure on your knees and shins,” says Carson. “It might feel like there’s a lot going on down there, but there’s no benefit.” Watch him in the FIGURE 8 SQUAT for perfect form.

For more workouts with Michael Carson or to check out Carmen Electra’s Aerobic Striptease workouts, go to http://www.exercisetv.tv/.

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The Secret To Success in Internet Marketing - Or Why You Might Not Be Successful

By David L Paul

Once again the ugly question has been posed to me from a would be internet millionaire- what is the real "trick" to making money. This was asked after I had just spent two whole days trying to impart information about websites and why you need one, getting traffic to your site, converting traffic into sales, and so on. I has frustrated me for years that the folks I try to help never seem to listen to what I am trying to tell them- instead they are always waiting for the "real secret", you know, the one that doesn't require education, experience, and hard work. Believe me, I've been looking for years, and there isn't any shortcut to success. Problem is, there are so many marketers and their minions screaming to the top of their lungs that you can "passively generate millions of dollars on autopilot" or "make 7,777 dollars a week while you walk the dog".

The noise that they generate makes my attempts at bringing reason to the mix sound like a whisper in a hurricane! But like a fool I keep trying. Why? Because I see the damage that is done every single day. I know it isn't what the average marketer wants to hear, but barring a few exceptions, you are going to have to work hard, be consistent, and probably spend considerable time before you will ever see any significant amount of money. I didn't make what I consider to be a living wage until my third year online. Now I will grant you that if I had to start all over again it would not take as long because I know how to do it now. The nature of the internet is one of hype, and almost always what you hear is either blown way out of proportion, or simply being repeated over and over by other marketers trying to jump on the easy money bandwagon.I know that many of you that read these words have experienced what I am talking about, and many of you still believe that there is easy money to be made with little or no work.

I would never want to try and discourage anyone from learning the hard way, so I won't spend a lot of time trying to dissuade you. Well, having said all of this, I want to talk about some good things, too. The internet is the only place that you can open a business for little or even no money. You can't even compare it to what it would take to open a brick and mortar business.
I've done that, and it takes a whole lot more time and work to get into the black, and then you still have to struggle to keep it up. Frankly, I never want to do it again! Another thing about the internet is that it enables communication and associations that would be very difficult or even impossible in the non-virtual world. And on top of all that, there really is good money to be made on the web. And let me boldly state that I have cracked the money making code! Just kidding.
What I do know is how to help you build a solid foundation, accelerate your learning curve,and expand you "Opportunity Horizon". Join the team at The Work At Home Home for a career jump start!

David Paul has been active in internet marketing for over ten years, with his focus on affiliate marketing, branding, and teaching marketing principles to sub affiliates. Before going into business for himself full time on the web, he spen7 years with a marketing data firm that provided information to major internet and software companies. You can find his portal site for internet marketers at http://www.workathomehome.net

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Unintended Consequences - The Secret to Rewarding Behavior

By Lynn Marie Sager

You've likely heard the saying, "What gets rewarded, gets repeated," but did you know, "What gets punished, also gets avoided?" Let me explain...

I once spent Christmas at a military outpost in Bosnia, deployed by the Department of Defense's overseas shows program as an entertainer for the troops. It was a great experience, but it was also a bit like spending Christmas in hell. One evening after a show, one of the soldiers made a comment I'll never forget.

"You have to be careful about doing a good job around here, " he said, "Cause if they think they need you, they'll give you another six months duty."

That soldier knew the consequences of doing a good job, and he considered those consequences a punishment. Whenever we punish people for doing good work, by piling them with more work and no reward, we lose so much of their potential. Why should people work harder for less?

The actions you reward usually determine the actions people repeat. So, if you have been getting what you don't want from people, then on some level, I bet you've been rewarding their behavior. After all, if they weren't receiving some reward, why would they keep repeating it?

Do you remember the saying, "a squeaky wheel gets all the grease"? Well, if you're tired of all the "squeaky wheels" in your life, then stop only rewarding the squeaks. Set aside the majority of your grease for the "wheels" that actually work. Devise a system for rewarding the people who actually give you what you want, and those "squeaky wheels" might just change their tune.
Sadly, some people don't live up to their potential because they know that they'll only be expected to do more.

During a lecture on rewards and punishments, I had a student once raise his hand to say, "That's so true. Whenever I help out at home, I just get asked to do more. The more I help, the more I get asked to do. It's gotten so I don't volunteer for anything. The other day, my aunt's gardener got sick and couldn't make his weekly visit, so I decided to help out with the lawn. I spent all weekend cleaning and mowing. Do you know how my aunt rewarded me? She fired the gardener, and made the yard my responsibility."

Don't punish people who are doing well by expecting even more. Whenever we ask for help, get help, and instantly expect more help, we punish the very actions that we want repeated...

From A River Worth Riding: Fourteen Rules for Navigating Life, by Lynn Marie Sager copyright 2005

You can find more about this topic on Navigating Life's website. Simply go to http://www.navigatinglife.org, and visit the Galley for links to our full articles.

Lynn Marie Sager has toured over two-dozen countries and worked on three continents. Author of A River Worth Riding: Fourteen Rules for Navigating Life, Lynn currently lives in California; where she fills her time with private coaching, public speaking, and teaching for the LACCD and Pierce College. She runs the Navigating Life website, where she offers free assistance to readers who wish to incorporate the rules of worthwhile living into their lives. To read more about how you can use these rules to improve your life, visit Lynn's website at http://www.navigatinglife.org

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The Marketing Secret Weapon You Can't Afford to Ignore

By Lisa Almeida

Amazon is bursting with books that claim to hold the secret formula for success in business. Broken down to its most basic elements, this formula is the same for every business:

1. Know what you are selling
2. Get in front of the people who will buy it and tell them about you and your product/service.
3. Take in more money in sales than you spend on number two.

Too simple, you say. Try this - for the next 48 hours pay attention to every business, product, service, gadget or widget that you encounter in any advertisement, promotion, marketing campaign, sweepstakes, or special offer that crosses your path.

You will begin to see a pattern. Regardless of the type of product or service or the method of communication, all marketing is designed to do one of two things: either tell you something about a product or service and why you should spend your money on it or tell you about the company that sells/produces it and why you should engage with them - or both.

Billions of dollars are spent on this each year. And while it is necessary to tell your target market about you and why they should choose to do business with you, it does not need to cost billions, millions or even thousands in many cases.

By far the single most economical and effective way to execute the previously outlined success formula is via email marketing.

• It is free (for now) and you can't get more economical than that.
• You might not be able to get someone into your "store" or website everyday but people check their email everyday and they read things that are of interest to them. The key is to make sure you don't look or act like junk mail.

If you are not using email marketing in your business you are missing the marketing boat. But don't panic, you are about to learn how to build the dingy that can get you on board!

1. Start to collect email addresses. Every time you interact with someone who falls into any of the following categories, ask for their email address and permission to add them to your mailing list.

o A current customer
o A past customer
o A potential customer
o A colleague (not a competitor) who may be a referral source
o Someone who already knows you and likes you

2. Do not add email addresses without permission. Resist the urge to build a huge list quickly by cruising the events at your local Giganta-Plex Convention Center. You may walk away with a wheelbarrow full of business cards but for the most part they will be useless because...

o Without a relationship, people will not read anything you send

o Your communications will most likely be marked as spam

o If you become tagged as a spammer, your email efforts completely backfire and you can be
blocked by many programs, even when you want to send non-marketing communication

3. Use a recognized bulk mail service - like Constant Contact. You still need permission but by using the service you greatly increase your chances that your communications reach the inbox and not the spam folder of your recipient.

4. Send useful information on a regular basis. Touch this community no less than once each month but be careful not to inundate. You don't want to become an annoyance and have people un-subscribing after you've worked so hard to get permission to contact them.

You now have the makings of a sea-worthy email marketing dingy. Paddle with steady determination and as your list grows and the useful communication flows, you'll soon find yourself aboard the mother ship enjoying the financial rewards of inexpensive relationship marketing.

Lisa Almeida is a small business Results Technician and owner of Planit Production. She helps small business owners get from where they are, to where they want to be. If you are in the market for strategies that can deliver the profit you need to get the results you want then visit http://www.YouHaveToPlanit.com today. Because success doesn't just happen, you have to planit! Are you ready to planit?

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Secret Students

by Ysolt Usigan

For some nontraditional students, returning to school is an undercover endeavor. By day, they work traditional jobs: marketing professionals, office managers, and teachers. By night, they attend school, carefully separating their work lives from their student lives. These "academic moonlighters" are keeping their scholastic missions hush-hush in order to advance in their careers or venture off into new ones. Find out why they're keeping their educational alter egos a secret.

The reeducation of a corporate player
Paula Zobisch, 52, used education as an escape from corporate America. "I grew tired of working in the corporate environment--the politics, the very long hours," she explains. Zobisch, who had been working for a corporation as a marketing professional, yearned for a new start, and decided to add a Ph.D. to her credentials.

She enrolled in an online doctorate program because the degree would propel her forward, she believed. Zobisch didn't want a boss--she wanted to be one. She was able to dedicate time to her studies after work hours, so the flexibility enabled her to keep her endeavor a secret.


"The reason I was quiet about pursuing another degree was because I knew it would qualify me for a different career direction," explains Zobisch, "and I didn't want my former employer to think I was after someone's position."

As is the case with many secret students, Zobisch chose to circumvent the potential backlash by employing a don't ask, don't tell policy. "I didn't actually sneak [around with my studies], but I didn't call attention to the [fact that] I was balancing my career with school [either]."

As a result, Zobisch was exhausted most of the time. "My stomach and head hurt for a solid three-and-a-half years," she recalls. At the time, her days were 18 hours long. "There were times I actually couldn't remember which day of the week it was," she recalls. "There was so much to do that I was completely overwhelmed and thought about quitting several times."

But Zobisch persevered--she was intent on completing her studies and finding an escape from her job. She would come into work Monday morning, having spent an extra 40 hours on weekends doing schoolwork.

And still, when asked if she has any regrets, Zobisch, who is now a marketing consultant at Cox Communications, answers: "None! This turned out to be the career path of my dreams. Now I'm an independent consultant with flexible hours. My life has finally become my own."

Keeping secrets from family
In keeping her scholastic secret from her employer, Dianna B. (last name withheld to protect her identity) is also lying to her father. You see, the chiropractic-office manager works at her father's practice, while covertly taking undergraduate classes at night at Temple University in hopes of pursuing a career as a teacher.

"I've been working with my father for nine years," explains the 25-year-old who initially began working at her father's Pennsylvania office part time in high school. "I feel like I have a certain loyalty to him and his business."

Though she always wanted to earn a degree, she became content in the career security of the family business. "The money I make at my dad's practice is more than enough for me to survive and have extra." But now, Dianna B. says she wants more.

"Ever since I was a little girl, I've wanted to become a teacher," she points out. "I put the dream on hold--practically forgot about it--because I've been so busy keeping my father's business running. Everyday, a new role comes along and it spirals from there."

With each new responsibility, however, Dianna B. wishes she were elsewhere. "I want to influence the lives of children. I want to share my love of teaching and learning with them," she explains.

Sharing that aspiration with her dad is something Dianna is having a tough time bringing herself to do. "I don't want to give him any added stress. He recently had a heart attack," she explains. "For him to replace me would be difficult. He trusts me with many responsibilities ... you just can't get that level of trust with someone who's not family."

For now, Dianna B. is taking things slow. She's a part-time student, so her undergraduate endeavor could potentially take longer than four years. She's not sure how she will eventually break the news to her father about her true passion, but she hopes once she's close to earning her bachelor's degree, it will be a better time to tell her father the truth.

Gunning for the boss's job
For Tony Banning, going back to school is a secret he's guarding mainly because the promotion he is seeking is one his boss may resent.

"I'm not really going to school in 'secret,' but I don't care to tell my boss what's going on either," says the middle-school teacher who is simultaneously pursuing a master's degree in business administration. Banning's goal is to take on a bigger role on a school system--perhaps as an assistant principal or principal.

And even if his boss does find out that he's pursuing a master's--and gunning for his job--he doesn’t care. "There are plenty of schools that would take me if my principal didn't approve of my educational endeavors," he attests.

Toward that end, Banning keeps his master's studies separate from his day job. At first, Banning chose to school online because it was the best way for him to keep up with his day-to-day duties as a teacher and tasks as a family man. He realized that he has a personal preference for the traditional classroom, and is now attending a brick-and-mortar campus for his courses.

After he made the decision to school on campus, he was able to juggle some of his obligations by getting support from his family. "I've had to follow a strict schedule to keep everything in line," he explains. "My family has been understanding because in the grand scheme of things, this is what's best for all of us."

Banning sometimes is amazed at his accomplishments. "I don't know how I've managed to keep up with everything in my life--family, students, workshops, full-time and part-time work, school," he says. "One rule I follow, regardless of life's pressures, though, is to do whatever my wife wants to do on weekends."

Banning has seen couples split due to work and school pressures. "If you're going to take on the challenge of work and school, make sure your mate clearly understands what's going to take place in the months to come," he adds.

Whether or not you decide to be up front about your endeavors with your employer, family, or friends, that choice is yours. As these learners attest, sometimes it's just easier to keep your aspirations to yourself, and know you're doing what's best for you.

[via MSN]

What "The Secret" Did Not Teach You About Manifesting

By Daniel Hinds

Like most people you may have seen the secret movie and you may have gone to work at trying to manifest the things you desire. However despite all of your very best intentions you still have not been able to manifest the sort of things that you want.

Sure you may have seen some results but the really big things, the things which are closes to your heart have yet to come.

There is a real secret to manifesting what you want. This secret to manifesting is way bigger than the law of attraction, way bigger than speaking mindless affirmations and even grander than visualization.

Even the teachers of the secret do not tell you the entire story of manifesting. And, that is understandable. Think of entering grade school for the very first time and before you have learned basic arithmetic your teachers are plowing ahead to teach you calculus.

If you were taught calculus before you learned the basics then you may never learn math at all. As a matter of fact you may even grown to hate math entirely.

The same is true of manifesting and the law of attraction. These teachings have been around for quite sometime and they are certainly not a secret. The teachings were studied by people who took the time to learn and understand each and every step.

Most people these days don't want to take the time to learn each detail. Most people would rather scan the net for tid bits of information and try to put it tighter, then they become very frustrated when they do not see the results they expect.

What the secret teachers did not tell you cannot be found plastered on the internet. The secret to true success with anything requires that you have a huge appetite and a burning desire to understand and master it fully and deeply.

True manifesting has many delicious secrets but you must have the desire to understand it fully and go beyond the very basics.

Have you noticed one thing about very successful people? They never stop learning. They always have the burning desire to go beyond their regular understanding to the peek and they will do just about anything to master whatever it is they truly desire.

Do you know that there are ancient techniques that can increase your manifesting intentions and attract what you want even faster than ever? Visit http://www.cosmic-wealth.com to learn more about these secrets teachings. Daniel Hinds is the author of the powerful ebook Magic Money.

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The Simple Secret for More Sex

When women are rushed, sleep suffers -- and so does your sex life
By: Geordie Brackin in Men's Health

A recent survey of American women confirmed what most women already knew (and men suspected): They're so rushed during the day that they don't get enough sleep, and that means less sex for everyone. According to the National Sleep Foundation, women who are short on time first cut back on sleep and exercise. Next to suffer cutbacks: social life, healthy eating...and sex.

"This is the largest survey in the U.S. of women in all stages of their life," says Dr. Meir Kryger, director of research and education of Sleep Medicine at Gaylord Hospital in Wallingford, CT. "It's one of the first to take into account both biology and lifestyle.

"If poor sleep patterns are a daily occurrence for women, it severely impacts their energy towards sex in the bedroom -- which is going to then affect men. It's all interconnected, and recognizing the problem will help any relationship."
We turned to Men's Health's expert, Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., our Bedroom Confidential columnist, for help.

Does this explain the "I'm too tired" excuse?
Clearly some women and men do say "I'm too tired" when they mean "I don't want to", "I'm too stressed", "I have other things on my mind", or "I'm annoyed with you". What it means probably depends on the person. Often it is a way of getting out of sex without a confrontation -- she could just be mad that you came home late and didn't call or didn't empty the dishwasher.

But the take-home message from this study should be that women (and likely men) are not getting enough sleep, bottom line, and that there are ways men and women, as partners, can improve this. Sleep has a very important effect -- including having enough energy for sex as well as sexual performance, meaning orgasms for women and men, and erections for men.

Guys can always find time for sex. Why not women?
Men do not always budget time for sex, either; they may say that, but research shows that they don't. Fatigue is a common reason that both men and women opt out of sex. Many people who deal with fatigue instead try to have sex in the morning when they may be less tired, if they tend to get more tired in the afternoon or evening. This may be a good solution for some men and their partners, too.

If more sleep equals more sex, what can men do to help women get more rest?
We know from years of research that even when couples start out in "equal" relationships, they tend over time to settle into more traditional roles, with women taking on more home and family tasks like homework, cooking, and cleaning, while men serve as breadwinners. Men may be able to ease their wife or girlfriend's burden -- and help her get more sleep -- if they work with their partner to make the last few hours of the day more peaceful.

Such as?
Here are some ideas:

1. Hire someone to help cook meals for the family, at least once in a while. Personal chef services are available but it doesn't have to be anything elaborate. Some families make meal preparation part of babysitters' responsibilities.

2. Hire a babysitter -- maybe even one that takes the kids out, while men and their partners stay in for a romantic dinner.

3. Go on a walk after dinner. This calms the kids, provides family time, gives everyone exercise which makes us tired enough for sleep but overall more healthy and active for sex.

4. Give her a massage.

5. Offer to draw her a warm bath.

6. Give the kids chores to take some of the burden off of her.

7. Hire someone to clean the house, either a professional service or local college student.

8. Take the TV out of the bedroom. Many women in the survey were watching TV before bed, which can make for restless sleep and less sex.

9. To help relax women and to set the mood, men can work with their partners to decide on a decent and early enough bed routine for the kids, give their wife or girlfriend space to get any work needed done before bed, and then still have 30-60 minutes of down time before sleep.

It sounds weird: to get more sex, we should encourage her to sleep more.
I would encourage men to strive for quality over quantity when it comes to sex. If they can make her day-to-day life easier and more restful, then when they do have sex it should hopefully be more enjoyable and something she WANTS to do, rather than feeling obligated to.

"Giving in" to sex when one is tired can set up a cycle of dreading sex but having it anyway. Having sex only when you want to, and have energy for it, is likely to make it better and set up a cycle of desire rather than obligation.

The Secret Ways You Say "I Love You"

Do you and he have a code word that means "Want you!"? A look that says "Love you"? A classic line from The Simpsons that stops a fight in its tracks? Find out why this sexy, sweet shorthand means even more than you know.

With three kids in the house, Stacie Zaragosa and her husband, Ricardo, have to get creative when they want to escape the crowd. So this Winsted, CT, couple have come up with a secret code phrase that lets them slip up to the bedroom, no questions asked. "One of us will say, 'I think we should both go upstairs and fold the laundry,' " says Stacie, 34. "The kids would never go near laundry, so it's a safe bet!"

Whatever your secret code is, speaking a private language doesn't just give you two a charge - it actually has the power to strengthen your bond. "Public displays of commitment - such as having a signal at a party to let each other know you're bored and want to leave - are better predictors of a couple's longevity and stability than public displays of affection, according to a recent study," says therapist Pat Love, coauthor of the upcoming book How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. "That's because these acts show nonverbally that you think as a couple, that your partner's having a good time is as important as your having a good time, and that your commitment to each other is bigger than your commitment to almost anything else." (Not taking sides against your spouse in a heated cocktail-party political debate - or even something as simple as finishing your meals at more or less the same time - also counts as public displays of commitment.)

"Communicating in code reinforces your solidarity and rapport," adds Diana Boxer, Ph.D., a professor of linguistics at the University of Florida. "It not only shows off your identity as a couple, it actually strengthens it, and that makes you feel more connected."

Where Do Codes Come From?
Three words: your shared history. "When couples have a meaningful experience together, they tend to use a word or phrase as a shorthand way of evoking the entire experience," says redbook Love Network expert Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., couples therapist and author of How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free. For Tessina and her husband, that word is "candles," because on their honeymoon, they passed out with candles blazing and almost torched the place. "Now all one of us has to say is 'candles' and we both laugh," she says.

No couple sits down and makes a point of figuring out a covert phrase or signal to share; rather, "The meaning of a code evolves over time," Boxer notes. "The more we get to know each other, the more we understand how the other person thinks."

Usually, codes are created at random, as was the case for Andrea Nemeth, 36, and her husband, Vadim Shleyfman, of Caldwell, NJ. "When we wave our hands in a shooting motion like a gun, we mean, 'I love you,'" Andrea says. Its origin? She can't remember! "We created it in some goofy moment," she says, and they now use it often.

What Code Can Do for Your Love
Having your own shorthand is a time-saver, for sure. But your catchphrases and nonverbal cues can also help you put hard-to-express emotions into words, find a comfortable way to ask for sex, even say, "Why are we fighting, anyway?" Some of the surprising benefits of your secret language:

Code keeps "I love you" from being one-size-fits-all.
When Anna Colombo, 37, met her man, she knew right away they were meant to be together. "Yet saying 'I love you' was not my thing," says this native of Italy who now lives in Salt Lake City. "So one day I told him, 'You're my home.'" More than 10 years of marriage and two kids later, the pair say these three magical words all the time. And their pet phrase has new relevance, she adds, "since we left Italy and our families and friends to move here."

So why not just say "I love you"? "Code is extra-intimate, because it says that you and I have been through this thing that nobody else has," says Tessina. "It's absolutely specific to you two." And if you're not a Hallmark kind of couple, it also lets you personalize the tone of your "I love you," as Shannon and Daniel McCauley of Philadelphia do. "I often call him 'a half-witted, stuck-up, scruffy-looking nerfherder,' to which he replies, 'Who's scruffy-looking?' - in perfect Han Solo timing," says Shannon, 32. "We also sign every email with 'I.M.S.' It stands for 'Implied Mushy Stuff.'"

Code lets you be private in public.
No matter where you are or who else is around, code creates a space for just you two. When Stephanie Hahn-Schmidt and her husband started dating, he was working for a paving company, side by side with big, burly guys' guys. "Every time he called me from a job site, he was embarrassed to say 'I love you,' in case someone was listening. So instead he would tell me, 'I like you,'" relays Stephanie, 38, a mom of four from Lodi, WI. "We've been married more than 11 years now, and we still say it to this day."

Glynis Buschmann, 42, of Yuba City, CA, and her husband have devised their own sneaky shorthand to help them feel connected in a crowd. "We just say 'magnificently' or 'incredibly' to say 'I love you magnificently' or 'I love you incredibly,' " Glynis says. "We started it when we were first dating and talking on our cell phones, where other people could hear us."

Heck, you don't even need words to create a just-us bubble: Suzanne Dunn's husband, Stevon, touches his nose to let her know she's adored. "He does it all the time - during family dinners, at parties, at our kids' ball games," says Suzanne, 35. "Nobody else has a clue what he's doing. It's our secret, and it feels so good."

It's no surprise that getting covert makes you feel cozy in a crowd, says Love. "It says, We're together, you're tuned in to me, and I hold a special place in your heart," she explains. "The reason we're in a relationship in the first place is we want to know we're somebody's best friend, and that we hold that unique place in his life."

Code helps you bridge the man-woman communication gap.
"Shorthand is a way for women to speak the male language," Love says. "Men aren't given to nuance. They like quick - doing rather than talking through things. And they hate having to figure out meaning. Having a code saves time and energy, so he's happy." In other words, codes help the two of you meet halfway between the talky female style of communicating and the silent male style.

Even though codes tend to be male-friendly, we XX's take to cryptic talk just as much as men do. "Women lead the way with developing a private language," Love notes, "because women's brains are highly specialized for reading subtle and nonverbal cues, and for attaching emotion to language." That's how it happened for Jacque Mellor, 42, of Casselberry, FL, and her husband. "We always kiss when the clock says 12:34 - a.m. or p.m. - because that is the time we were married 23 years ago," Jacque says. "My husband says I'm the one who started it, but he's the one who made it a tradition."

Code makes asking for affection less scary.
It's little wonder that so many of us have a signal or password that means, "Action, please!" "Sex makes us more vulnerable than almost anything else," Love points out. After all, being turned down for sex can make anyone feel inadequate, rejected, or undesirable. "But when you have a code or cue," she continues, "it takes away that awkward negotiation and paves the way for true intimacy. It provides an easy way for your partner to say no without it seeming like a big deal."

And these cues do more than subtly get your point across - they help get both parties in the proper frame of mind. It makes sense: If you consistently associate a word or signal with sex - such as if your sex shorthand is "Orlando," because that was the site of your first overnight together - with time, that word or signal alone can actually get you both fired up. That's the case with Christi Mann, 25, and her husband, Dave. "I have a shirt that I put on when I want to get frisky - it's a gray tank top with a little bunny on it," says Christi. "Now, every time I put it on, it drives him crazy!"

You can use code to say "Truce!"
The first thing Wendy Alli ever said to her husband-to-be when she saw him sitting three bar stools away was, "Want a chip?" She instantly felt stupid, but it started a conversation that started a real-life love story. And the phrase now saves the Spring Hill, FL, pair from letting silly fights get in the way of their good thing. "When we get a little frustrated with each other, one of us will say, 'Want a chip?' and it brings us back to that moment when we first met," reports Wendy, 33. "It always makes us laugh!"

No matter what your twist on "Want a chip?" is, having a lighthearted white-flag phrase or signal breaks the tense mood, helping you remember the big picture ("We're great together!") rather than the little issue at hand ("He used up my $30 conditioner!"). "Humor and teasing can be a powerful tool for defusing a charged interaction," explains Boxer. And it doesn't just help you in the moment: Research has shown that couples who use humor to alleviate tension and conflict have longer-lasting marriages than couples who don't.

Still, your truce code doesn't have to be a knee-slapper, as Kimberly Salem, 40, and her husband, Joe, of Proctorville, OH, have discovered. "We often forget how much we mean to each other in the midst of an argument," she says. "So we came up with a code that puts things into perspective: W.A.B., which stands for 'We Are Blessed.' It puts a smile on our faces every time."

Having a saying with personal meaning can even help you through really tough times. Nobody knows that better than Mandy Snyder, 29, and her fiancé, Ed Blank, 29. The Allison Park, PA, couple were trying to build a house, but "at every turn, we ran into difficulties," she says.

"Around the same time, we watched the movie The Money Pit, and every time the main characters would ask a carpenter or plumber how long something would take, they got the same answer: 'Two weeks!' Now, any time one of us is getting too stressed, we'll smile at each other and say, 'Two weeks!' We always laugh and it draws us closer together."

Code Red
As long as you're not calling each other "Splenda lips" in front of the boss, there's little downside to using code. Of course, you don't want to communicate exclusively in a private pig latin, Love advises. "Remember there's a time and a place for deeper expressions," she says. "Make sure your connection is deeper than a catchphrase."

Here's one good sign that it is: Your secret signals keep the two of you feeling connected over time. "When we're at a party and someone else is talking too much, my husband and I will discreetly push our knees together and glance over at each other for a second," says Jade Woodson, 36, of River Rouge, MI. "For 20 years, it's let us know that we're both feeling the exact same way. It's sweet satisfaction to know that not only are we soul mates, but we're also still great friends."

Secret Service Much Too Careful - Hurt President's Image

By L. Winslow

It is risky business in this day and age to be a politician, no mater which country you are in. If you are a member of a legislative branch or the leader of an entire country, there is a trade off between security of self and being one with the people. If you are loved and respected things are much easier, but you will never be loved by all and thus enemies are made, whether you like it or not.

Often in the United States our secret service is way too careful and this can hurt the image of a President, in their hyper vigilance to play it safe and keep the leader out of harms way. If something happens by accident or due to some nut case out there, either way, the entire nation is a risk of losing confidence in the government, leadership or ability to run the nation.

Public perception and public confidence can make or break markets, economies or the backs of nations, that too is a fine line. If the Secret Service is too careful the President misses opportunities to be one with the people, if they are too lax and do not do due diligence, then there is personal danger or risks of upsetting the people's confidence.

Better safe than sorry, seems to be a very good policy, but it is not always what is best for the nation. Being a leader means taking some risks and thus, more discussion on what's good for the nation needs to enter the frame work of the complex decision matrix on these issues.

If you are a leader you must take risks, for your future and the future of the nation. No, I never said it would be easy, I am just an observer, observing the reality, behind the methods, that bring us to where we are today. Think on it.

L. Winslow is an Economic, Political and Technology Advisor to the Online Think Tank, a Futurist and retired entrepreneur http://www.worldthinktank.net . Currently Mr. Winslow is planning a bicycle ride from Canada to Mexico and in Spring across the US from San Diego to Virginia Beach to raise money for charity. Previously he was a track star athlete, private pilot, involved in politics, community volunteerism and a Franchising Founder. Mr. Winslow has choosen 100 titles of Books he wishes to write and has completed ten thus far. The subjects include; Community Planning, Future Tech, Franchising, Small Business, and Third World Issues.

Secret To Knowing Everything In All Of Reality

By Enoch Tan

It is an illusion that we can only know certain things that God has revealed to us, but what is kept hidden we may not know. The truth is that we can know everything there is to know about the whole universe. All knowledge is mental and we can access any part of it with the mind. It is only the limits of our beliefs that govern what knowledge we may or may not have access to.
When you think God is stopping you, you can go ahead and wrest that knowledge from God. You will know that he makes it available.

The secret of genius lies in using the principle of correspondence to understand all things. By understanding that which is below, you are able to comprehend that which is above, and vice versa. You're able to know all of reality without going to every place. You can know the whole world without stepping out of the door. The world's within you. Everything you see on the outside is a reflection of what is on the inside. There is nothing that's outside your range of perception. You can observe what is there from here.

Reality is holographic in nature. The part contains the image of the whole. What you find in one area is replicated in every other area. Truth is omnipresent. What is true in one place must be true in every place. Reality has many levels. Subjective truth changes from one level to the next.
What is subjectively true on one level becomes very different on another level. The set of rules that govern one level can be replaced by an entirely new one on a higher level. But objective truth stays the same on every level.

The higher level governs the lower level, therefore what is found on a higher level may not necessarily be found in its complete form on a lower level. But because of correspondence, the lower level must contain some part or some form of that which is on the higher level. If it cannot be found then it must be false. There is a representation of something that exist on a higher level in a lower one. When there's a match between the experience of one area of reality with another, then there is truth.

This is where the principle of polarity comes into play where all truth is half truth, because both the inner and the outer world form the whole picture. When you see only what's on the inside or what's on the outside, you are seeing only half the picture. The inside is the intention and the outside is the manifestation. You can look at one to understand the other but they must match if you are seeing rightly. You arrive at truth when your idea of both the higher level and the lower level harmonize with each other.

Everything is connected to everything else. Nothing stands alone. By looking into the essence of a thing and flowing with its connection to another thing and another, you are able to travel the whole universe and back to the original thing. By knowing a thing, you are able to know everything else that is connected to it. You are also able to know a thing by knowing everything else that is connected to it. You are a reflection of the entire universe and everything else in the universe reflects a certain part of you.

The ultimate nature of reality is mental. We can know everything through reason because everything is made up by it. Reality is consciousness therefore we perceive all things through reason. With the power of reason, you can travel to all levels and dimensions of reality and understand everything there is in each of them. Reason is how you are able to go everywhere from here. All things are made by reason or logos, and when you realize that reason is unlimited, your ability to perceive becomes unlimited.

There is only one consciousness that makes up the entire universe, and this consciousness is all knowing. Therefore knowledge is universal. No one knows a thing except through the universal mind. If you know something, others can know it to. If others know something, you can know it too. Nothing is limited from your awareness and you cannot limit anything from other people's awareness. Genius is omniscience flowing into man. All can tap into the universal mind and gain any kind of knowledge required.

We can know by revelation and not be limited by experience. Some people limit themselves from knowing a thing by claiming that they must experience it first. But there is knowledge of things above that is inspired from above. Those that allow themselves to learn about these things through revelation can know far more than those who limit themselves to experience. Blessed are those who have not seen but yet believe. Because their minds are able to comprehend things purely through reason and logic.

Some people are chosen by the universe for direct experience so that they can share it with others. The three blind man each experience a portion of the elephant. They can gain a fuller perspective of what the elephant is by combining their perspectives. Error is what happens when we stick to our own partial viewpoint without merging it with the viewpoints of others. We are all meant to learn from one another. Awareness is to be shared. Each of us is created to help everyone else see everything together.

When you travel along the connections of a thing, follow it until you find the core. All things lead to the core and therefore the core is all you need because it connects with everything else. The core is the purest structure within all structures. It is essence structure. The best structure is the structure that integrates and simplifies everything. It is the most ordered and clearest organization of things. The complete knowledge of the universe is the integration of all truth, and this is how you can truly know everything.

Enoch Tan aims to help people achieve greater awareness in living and experiencing life. To evolve human consciousness to higher levels. To change lives and transform the universe. To revolutionize the way we understand the mind and reality. Because that is what governs every area of life and destiny. Get Free Ebooks of The Most Powerful Knowledge and Learn Secrets of Mind and Reality That will Fully Benefit You Now at: Secrets of Mind and Reality

Big Goals - One Secret to Making Them Happen

By Annette Colby

"You will either step forward into Growth, or you will step back into Safety."

~ Abraham Maslow ~

As the year quickly moves forward, this could turn out to be just another day, week and month that passes by, or it could be the beginning of something new. Take a look at your life. Overall, how is it going? Would you describe your life as a joyous, passionate expression of self? Are you living your most abundant, peaceful, loving life? Everyone of us carries within an idea, a dream, or a desire. Taking action on these desires is how a relevant and personally meaningful life unfolds. Yet so often these dreams are dismissed or put on the cold back burner because they seem so large and unattainable. Will today be another day that passes by without taking action on your dream?

Question: "What could you do differently today that would effect your life?"

We generally have some sort of an idea of what we would wish to create within our life. Yet typically, that dream is also connected with the enormity of all that it would take to change the status quo. The task ahead seems huge and unmanageable. All the familiar feelings of procrastination, doubt, and overwhelm rise to the surface. It seems much easier to remain in the safety of what is familiar. How do any of us get past the plateau that we sit on?

One Necessary Step . . .

Take A Small Step Each and Every Day
Antoine De Saint-Exupery ( 1900-1944, French Aviator, Writer) wrote, "What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step. It is always the same step, but you have to take it." In other words, in the end, as adults, no one can save us but ourselves. We own, and are responsible, for our own lives and happiness.

Problems and challenges exert a force over you. You feel trapped underneath the weight of your issue, unable to move. To confront this force, you need to know what you want out of life. You need a destination in front of you, some positive goal to reach. These long-term goals focus your attention on your ideal future. They represent your final outcome.

It is important to have this big picture representation of your final outcome. It is also necessary to live in today and to choose today actions. Step back from the big picture and find what step you can do right now, today, to make your dream come true. What is one small, achievable step you can take today to move forward with your dream?

What is the definition of a small step? It is any action you can take that would breathe life into your goal, that would bring a sense of forward movement, or that would make you feel good about being involved in the ideas and desires that are most important to you. Today action steps are immediate tasks that move you closer to your long-term goal.

Small action steps are based on your long-term goal. They are important because they keep you focused in the here and now, motivating yourself with small doable decisions. Make your action steps reachable. With each action you successfully complete, you feel more energize and more optimistic about having your outcome. Here are several examples of small steps that provide a big impact:

Write down your goal on paper. Write it down every morning.

Create a simple picture board illustrating your desired outcome.

Take five minutes today to imagine yourself joyfully living your desire. Feel your body come alive with pleasure.

Create a priority list each morning and schedule your goal tasks with a specific time.

At the end of each day write down the action you completed and celebrate your efforts.
Question:

Will today be the day you gently put aside all of your excuses, and take tangible action on creating your most meaningful dreams?

Regardless of how overwhelming your goal seems, there is always a small step that would lead you toward overcoming your inertia. The size of your step can never be too small. Slowly, step by step, you will bring your dreams to life, feel more energized, and feel better about yourself!

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Dr. Annette Colby, RD can help you take the pain out of life, turn difficult emotions into joy, release stress, end emotional eating, and move beyond depression into an extraordinary life!

Annette is the author of Your Highest Potential and has the unique ability to show you how to spark an amazing relationship with your life! Visit www.LovingMiracles.com to access hundreds of content filled articles and sign up for a Fr’ee subscription to Loving Miracles! newsletter.

Porn Addiction - The Guilty Secret

By Paddy Landau

Bob is depressed. He suffers from low self-esteem and easily feels guilty. He is taking anti-depression medication, and his doctor is unsure what is worrying Bob.

Bob's family is also worried. They don't see much of him, and he shows little interest in woman after he and his last girlfriend split over a year ago. His friends have all but given up on him.
Bob's workmates persuaded Bob to come along with them that evening after work. They've noticed that Bob is withdrawn and doesn't interact much, and it doesn't surprise them that he leaves early. They wonder how much longer he will be with the company, because these days he tends to get in late and work poorly.

It's lucky that Bob doesn't have a wife or children, because it's interesting to find out what Bob does at home...

Bob gets home, walks in, locks the door, turns the computer on, makes a cup of coffee and sits down. A few minutes later, he is downloading porn and "enjoying" the pictures and videos. Late into the night he continues, more and more porn, until, exhausted, he reluctantly turns off the computer and flops into bed.

Bob's real problem is not depression or low self-esteem. Those are side effects of something more nasty - a type of obsession known as porn addiction. It is as consuming as any addictive drug, and can have devastating effects on the sufferer. Often, the man (it's hardly ever a woman) doesn't even realise that he has a problem until it's too late: He's fired for downloading pornographic pictures at work, or his wife, confused and hurt, leaves him.

Pornographic addiction usually happens when a man has some sort of social problem and, as a consequence, fails to have fulfilling relationships, whether family, friends or sexual. His emotions are out of sync with reality and he lives in his own personal fantasy.

As with any other addictive drug, porn addiction grows in its demands. The need to find ever more explicit, exciting or perfect material drives the addict, who spends more and more time seeking it. He may spend money on videos and magazines, or spend many hours searching on the Internet. The empty thrills that he gets hides his real problems, becoming not just a crutch but an all-consuming habit that he has no idea how to get rid of. Going "cold turkey" is something he cannot even imagine doing.

Fortunately for Bob, there are solutions. The good thing is that, unlike with addictive drugs, there is no physical damage to his body. However, because he has been surviving on adrenalin and other sex-related hormones, he will have withdrawal symptoms.

Bob needs to get the help of anyone and everyone that will give him non-judgemental support. He may speak to his doctor, who would refer a therapist. He would do well to seek out the services of a hypnotherapist, who would greatly speed his recovery. Bob - especially if he is afraid to seek help - could turn to the Internet, this time not for the problem but for a solution to the problem, by downloading a suitable self-help hypnotherapy track for porn addiction.
More on porn addiction, and where to find self-help for pornography addiction.

The Inspiration for the Film - The Secret

By Tim McKee

Many people, from business experts to philosophers, from number crunchers to mystics, have actually believed in and spoken about the Law of Attraction for centuries. If you are spiritual, you don’t have to go very far to the great religious texts of the world, to find it written about. If you are a concrete realist, you don’t have to go very far to find it alluded to often in the great speeches and biographies of those who have “made it” in capitalistic world. Proctor writes that the inspiration for this current book and film come from a “simple little book written in 1910…called the “Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles.”

Wallace points out that while we function with what he calls “the competitive mind” (and who in business doesn’t), we must “learn to harness our creative mind.” Again, he affirms the idea – scientifically as well as philosophically – that the Universe is made up of energy. Our very thoughts are energy…and as we ‘put out’ in thought, so do we ‘attract back’.

You have only to think of the people in your life who seem to live under a perpetual cloud. Yes, bad things happen to good people. However, it is up to us individually to go through the bad things, and come out on the other side. It is when we stop and allow the bad stuff to take control of our outlook, of our thoughts, that we literally hand over our energy to the Universe to keep us stalled in one place. And so, the black cloud stays put – right over our personal heads.

Proctor paraphrasing Wallace puts it more succinctly, “All that you include in your mental image will come to you through the physical realm – through the process of natural ways such as trade and commerce.”

Think of all those stories of men and women who manage to rise up against unspeakable, and often, horrible, odds. Millions of immigrants who have gone on to become successful business owners, and millions of no-bodies who have become household names, made it because they did not, would not, let go of what could be. Did that mean that they didn’t encounter obstacles? No.
Did that mean they didn’t get discourage, frustrated, and even sad? No. It means that their vision/dream of what they wanted to be and create was stronger then ANYTHING that could keep them ‘down’ and mentally, spiritually, and physically stuck in one place!

The hardest job you and I will ever have is to get out of our own way – mentally. The time is now to affirm the logic of thoughts as real energy; the time is now to accept that our thoughts cannot only change our perceptions, but physically change where we are as glorious creatures meant to have and live an abundant life!

My name is Tim McKee, and I am a Senior Partner at Pathways Business Associates, PBA’s mission is to develop leaders, coaches and entrepreneurs through educating them about the law of attraction and the secret.

The Secret to Feeling Good - Change What You Can

By Carole Pagan

How many whiny depressed people do you know that have become successful?

Did you know that feeling good is a requirement if you're going to be successful? That's right.
Every self improvement course from the Bible to The Secret has this one little element.

You've seen all of this advice I'm sure -

Believe with all of your heart.

Picture what it feels like to already have what you want.

Focus on the solution, not the problem.

Thought fueled by emotion becomes things.

You become what you think about most of the time.

Every cloud has a silver lining.

And these are just a few.

So, if you're constantly focusing on the negative things, according to all of these self improvement nue and teachings - you constantly bring about more negative circumstance.

Now that might sound like a bunch of magic hocus pocus, but think about it. What happens when you approach someone with a negative attitude? Do they willingly jump to help you out, or do they bristle and try to get away from you as quickly as possible?

If you approach a sales clerk, or a waiter, or even your boss with a positive attitude - are they generally more willing to bend over backwards to help you out?

If you approach a task with a negative attitude - does it go well? Or does it go badly - 'just the way you pictured it would.'

But we live in the real world, and it's nearly impossible to feel good all of the time - or even most of the time. But it is possible to remove a lot of negativity from your life. That's what the CommonSenseLiving site is all about.

You can't feel good when your house is a mess. Clean it up.

You can't feel good when you're overweight. Not physically or emotionally. Lose the weight.

You can't feel good when you are tired and drained. Eat right and get enough exercise and sleep.

You can't find time to work on being successful when your life is constant chaos. Get organized.

As simple as that sounds, it's not - is it?

The truth is, it can be.

Visit the site and work on one problem at a time. I always recommend starting with cleaning the house first. It's the quickest and most visual way for you to feel an accomplishment. Once you have a sense of accomplishment and you can feel good about it, it's easier to move on and tackle the next thing.

No hocus pocus. Just common sense. And it works. Keep building - success after success. It doesn't matter how little. You'll feel better and better until finally you are in alignment. Another one of those magic words. But again, it's not magic. Each success builds your confidence. The more confident you feel, the easier it is for you to take the next action. The cycle will conti you will move up and up and up.

Just one little accomplishment a day will make a big difference. Always remember, you can do more than you think you can.

Carole helps people deal with every day real life issues that keep you constantly distracted and drained so you can focus on more important things - like reaching your goals. Find more articles to make your life better @ http://CommonSenseLiving.com

Simple Audio Secrets - Choosing Winning Content For your Audio

By Virginia Culp

Internet audio comes in a variety of formats. And whether you have already started with internet audio you might be wondering "how can I use internet audio for profit?"

Here is a short list of some of the ways you can incorporate audio into your existing internet marketing mix.

• Viral E-books and Viral Videos – use audio and video to promote a product, service, or web site and promote it as a free giveaway or a bonus offer
• Web Site Introductions – bring the human element to your web site which adds more credibility
• Multi-media copy – use audio as the stimulant to guide your web site visitors through the copy on YOUR site or in your upsells, downsells, and/or one time offers
• Audio testimonials
• Music
• Audio E-books for sale
• Podcasts
• Webinars
• Recorded teleseminars
• And many others

It's not a question anymore of SHOULD you incorporate audio into your online marketing mix. Today it's HOW.

As for striking a winning chord with your content ... it still comes down to research (just like in any other venture.)

Has that light bulb gone off yet in your brain with what NICHE is all about? In audio it's exactly the same. Let me illustrate.

Let's say you decide you want to be a podcaster.

Your next battle is what to podcast about. THAT comes down to a combination of your expertise and WHERE the demand is. Find a hungry market and feed it! Find a problem, and solve it!
The unfortunate dilemma is that most internet marketers follow this principle backwards, and create their product and then seek its market.
Virginia Culp is the voice behind 3 Buck Audio

AUDIO BOOTCAMP: Make More Money by Mastering Audio

For free audio and PDF articles you can freely distribute, visit http://www.3buckaudio.com/freestuff/

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The Number One Secret To Lose Belly Fat Fast

By James Penn

If you are struggling to lose belly fat and flatten your flabby stomach, then you are not alone! There is one huge misconception when training to lose stomach fat and get six pack abs and this misconception will be challenged in this article so that you can understand the real secret for losing belly fat and achieve the stomach you desire.

I bet you’ve been promised that you will lose all your belly fat in some ridiculous time frame by experts who say that all you need to do is use the latest gadget advertised on infomercials and the miracle supplement that burns fat without you having to do anything. I trust you’ve never fallen for this. But I bet you have fallen for the experts saying that all you really have to do is abdominal exercises to lose belly fat – that’s not true. Sport training does not work.

While it is true that abdominal exercises, such as sit ups and crunches, are important and should be incorporated in your workout routine for strengthening your back and your core, you should also perform other exercises that are not specific for the abdominal area, such as lunges, squats, dead lifts and even work with barbells and dumbbells.

These exercises will greatly increase your metabolic rate during and for up to 48 hours after the workout. Secondly, it stimulates fat burning hormones in your body. You won’t get this kind of response from your body if you are only doing abdominal specific exercises, like sit ups and crunches.

Download your free report today and discover the SHOCKINGLY simple abdominal workouts, exercises and nutritional advice that will shed pounds from your stomach & transform your flabby belly into firm & flat six pack abs. Visit http://www.firmupyourabs.com to download your free copy.

Millionaire Mind - Secrets of the Millionaire Mind - Reason(s) for failure

By Leo Foster

In this article we will discuss the Millionaire Mind, the Secrets of the Millionaire Mind and reason(s) for financial failure.

There is ONLY ONE REASON for financial failure: an inadequate financial Self-Image (what some refer to as Money Blueprint)

There is ONLY ONE REASON for financial success: a positive, winning Self -Image with the Millionaire Mind beliefs, values and rules of the millionaires.

You have an inadequate, defective financial Self-Image (Money Blueprint) because

1. You definitely have conflicting, limiting Beliefs, Values and/or Rules.

And you also have ANY or ALL all of the following:


2. Lack of knowledge and techniques to identify and eliminate conflicting, limiting beliefs, values and rules from your Subconscious mind.

3. Lack of knowledge and techniques to program into Subconscious new useful beliefs, values and rules that will support your financial goals, NOT oppose them.

4. Inability to use Subconscious mind to GUIDE to take the proper steps and to the right type business

5. Inability to use Subconscious mind to help create the best possible plan of action;

6. Lack of self-belief, self-confidence and FEAR (beliefs of failure, rejection, humiliation, etc.)

7. Inability to program mind to take ACTION

8. Lack of knowledge that the VERY FIRST thing that MUST be done when setting a NEW goal (financial or otherwise) is to analyze your financial Self-Image (beliefs, values and rules) that will undertake the new goal and CHANGE it if inadequate.

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Let's add some items cited by many, and which exist in your world because of your DEFECTIVE, INADEQUATE Self-Image (Money Blueprint) . Even though they may be contributing to your failure, they are not the PRIMARY cause of it.

Everything always begins in your mind. The Law of Belief (= Law of Attraction) will "materialize" in your reality the EXACT match to your deeply held beliefs, values and rules.

"What you deeply believe at the Subconscious level will materialize in your life", "It is done unto you as you believe", "You get exactly what you deeply believe".

Even Napoleon Hill, in his best-selling book "Think and Grow Rich" invokes the Law of Attraction by stating "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and BELIEVE, it can achieve".
Notice very carefully that Napoleon Hill's statement would be incomplete without the verb BELIEVE included.

The PRIMARY, ORIGINAL, father/mother CAUSE of your financial failure is -- ONE MORE TIME -- a defective financial Self-Image (Money Blueprint). The
REST is consequence of such limited Self-Image.

The CAUSE of your financial failure is ALWAYS a defective Self-Image (limiting, conflicting Beliefs, Values and Rules) which activate the Law of Attraction (=Law of Belief) to bring you limited, undesirable financial results which are in perfect harmony with the conflicting, limited beliefs, values and rules you hold.

So, here we may cite some CONTRIBUTING factors -- keeping in mind that they are consequence of a defective financial Self-Image, and NOT the CAUSE of it. Most people believe the EXACT opposite and have NO CLUE about their own limited, defective, inadequate financial Self-Images (Money Blueprint).

1. You do not know how to handle money. You have limited knowledge of to how handle, manage, save and invest your money.

2. You do not have specific, clearly defined WRITTEN goals and WRITTEN plans for their achievement.

3. You are too lazy or afraid to take the time and educate yourself regarding financial matters.
4. You always jump into action (try to invest in real estate, stock market and commodities, work from home, open a new business, sell on ebay, just to mention a few possibilities) without EVER looking at the financial Self-Image (Money Blueprint) of the fellow who is going to achieve all that -- YOU!.

5. You are always into those "get rich quick" schemes without the proper financial Self-Image and without the proper knowledge of the business you are getting into.

6. You let others manage and invest your money instead of learning the most you can about the process.

7. You avoid making investments because of your lack of knowledge and expertise. And you compound the problem by refusing to educate yourself about financial matters.

8. When you decide to make some investments, you do it in things and areas about which you do not have any knowledge or understanding -- or only limited and erroneous knowledge. It almost looks as if you are setting yourself up for failure. (Let me tell you the real SECRET: You ARE because unknown to you, your Subconscious is already set up for failure due to so many limiting beliefs, values and rules)..

9. You do not even make any efforts to handle the limited amount of money you may have right now.

Now, add other contributing factors that come to your mind and/or applies specifically to your situation..

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But . . . unless you understand that everything BEGINS AND ENDS with your financial Self-image (Money Blueprint), you will NEVER have any great and/or lasting financial success.

Billionaires Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Bill Bartmann and multimillionaire Harv Eker, author of "The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" will tell you that you may know everything a human can possibly know about how to handle and manage money, how to invest in real estate, stock and commodities, you can be a financial genius. . And still, unless you have that Millionaire Mind (= winning financial Self-Image, winning Money Blueprint made up of the right beliefs, values and rules) you will still FAIL miserably the moment you go into business -- no matter what type of business, no matter how smart you think you are , no matter how hard and how long you work..

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The Secret To Success - Choosing The Right Network Marketing Company

By Grace Sapp

How do you choose an MLM company? Obviously it is important to research a company before you decide to market for them. What most people don’t understand is what they call “analyzing” a company really is not adequate. Every major company out there on the market is well established, they’re successful, they have high number of sales, and have a lot of successful marketers in their company.

So then, what makes each company stand out differently from the other? Why would you not find the same amount of success in each company? The answer is that there’s much more going on here. There are many other factors to consider that shockingly, go unnoticed and silent by most people. Most people aren’t aware of the important information about the company they are marketing for. They know about the products, they know the sales numbers, and they’ve read about the comp plan. But they don’t really know about the company itself.

It’s virtually like a home business war for distributors out there. The bottom line is, most people aren’t going to give you the straight scoop because they’re either ignorant or unwilling to let it be known that their opportunity really isn’t that great. There are a lot of great companies, but not a lot of great opportunities. That may seem like a contradiction in terms, but it’s not really.
A company can be a successful, stable company, but it may no longer be growing. Amway is a great company, but I wouldn’t recommend anyone start a business in it today, as it is long past its growth curve.

There are certain key indicators you have to look at. The key indicators you have to look at are the annual growth of sales of the company, and the number of people advancing in ranks on a monthly basis. This tells a person how the average distributor is doing, not just the “hot shots”.

Remember to look at annual data. – Try and evaluate the course the company has been on the
past few years and where it seems to be headed.

It is important to note, however, that most all brand new companies will show a higher rate of growth than others. Statistically though, these companies are more likely than not to go out of business. So typically I would not recommend a start-up company. What you really hope to find is a mature company, something that has at least 5 years of business under their belt that is currently experiencing tremendous growth. This is where the money is made in this industry.
Don’t let anyone kid you, money is made when a company is in a rapid growth curve.

Really analyzing a network marketing company should really be similar to the way an investment analyst would look at various companies in terms of investing in their stock.
However, in your case, you’re not looking at income protection. – You’ve got to grow an income! So any stock that’s just piddling along at 5% a year, you’re never going to grow an income with.

When you want to make money by investing in stocks, you don't invest in Microsoft or Coca Cola. Why? These are both extraordinarily successful companies that're doing very well. - But they are no longer experiencing growth. They're safe, reliable investments if you want to protect your money, and they'll give you a modest amount of growth. But you will never grow a huge nest egg. If however, you could've invested money in Microsoft 25 years ago, when the company was experiencing rapid growth, you'd be a multimillionaire today. Network marketing is very similar, and although they are rare, these opportunities do exist in our field.

Now, there are other factors at work here. In addition, you want a really good product that customers like to take regardless of the money, because eventually the growth curve will stop. At that point, if people were only taking the product just to make money, your business will dry up very quickly because the opportunity has ended. You want a product people love so much that once the growth of the company stops people continue taking the product. This is your residual income.

The bottom line is that there is much more to choosing an MLM company than is being made public. Check out your company, if they are experiencing rapid growth, you’ll know. – They’ll be shouting it to the Heavens! If you’re in a company and they’re not making these numbers clear, than they probably aren’t the best opportunity.

Take a company that’s growing 5% a year. In order to double your income you’d have to work 20 times better than the average distributor for a year, or work for 20 years. - Just to double your income! The truth is, most of us aren’t 20 times better than average. I know I’m not! Because average is just that, the majority. So the trick is getting involved in a company where the majority have successful, continually growing businesses.

God bless!

Grace Sapp

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Not Oprah's Secret! Grandma's Secret

By April Lorier

Oprah's Secret, my grandmother didn't know; but Grandma knew the secret to keeping her mind straight and her heart full of God's peace. She had five grown children and numerous grandchildren, some of whom she was raising. She worked as a cleaning lady for the President of the local bank, both for the bank and for his home. Even with her demanding husband she served the ladies in her local church. There were problems beyond her control every day, and yet there were always warm baked goods on her table and healthy meals served.

I learned her secret when I was just a child. She was constantly humming or half-singing some old hymn as she was down on her knees scrubbing the already-clean floors. No matter what life threw at her, Grandma got busy doing the next thing. She knew what she was responsible for, and she attacked it like there was no tomorrow. (Do I have to say her house was always spotless, her laundry fresh and clean, and her appearance was impeccable?)

Later I learned patients in mental hospitals are given one small task per day to accomplish: today clean out that small drawer and organize it. Tomorrow it could be a larger drawer, but whenever the “next thing” is accomplished the patient’s confidence is boosted and mental clarity improves immediately.

There are times when life gets too confusing – too painful to allow one to even consider what can or should be done. It is during these critical times that doing the next thing is so critical. It’s just too easy to become mentally, emotionally, and then physically paralyzed by life – especially if one has survived domestic abuse in the past. Nothing ever disappears from our subconscious minds – it creeps out when we sleep, or an image (or sound) immediately transports us back to the painful times. That's why we must consciously move!

I have a friend who has known me forever, and she always says, “Girl, get out of your chair and do something – anything that requires no thought. Always, if I heed her advice, it breaks the paralysis! There’s something about doing “mindless work” (eg: scrubbing down the kitchen) that makes me feel I have some personal power, and I’m OK from that point.

Today don’t let anything paralyze you. If you’re a Christian, give the memory to God, then do your part – get up and do the next thing. It’s Grandma’s Secret for depression!

April Lorier is an Author, Christian Speaker, and Columnist. She has also been a classroom Music Teacher. She is the Founder of C.O.P.E., Inc., a non-profit organization formed for the retraining of abusive and neglectful parents, as well as for the education of the public. Her testimony before the California State Legislature helped to facilitate the passage of The Child Abuse and Neglect Reporting Act (CANRA) in 1974 which Ronald Reagan signed. As a pastor’s daughter and a survivor of severe child abuse, April Lorier has an intimate knowledge of child abuse in and out of the church. She has spent the last thirty-five years ministering to survivors of abuse from her home base of Southern California. Her autobiography, "God’s Battered Child:
Journey from Abuse to Leader" (2007) is available at AMAZON.

Secret Romantic Love Poems

By Adam P Archer

Romantic love poems are the poem of choice by many, although there are other great topics and all sorts of other types of poems, romantic love poems is what people automatically think of when the word poem comes up.

Back in the days when Romeo and Juliet written by Shakespeare, ruled, you can be sure Romeo tried and tried to seduce Juliet, and one of his many tactics was the all o mighty romantic love poems, and the reason being is they always work by capturing your lovers heart almost instantly.

Even today romantic love poems are a great tool used by many men trying to impress or win the love of a special lady in their life, there are many ways romantic love poems can be used, but a more widely used method of choice is the online email transfer. People are sending their loved ones romantic love poems by the thousands every single day.

Writing your own romantic love poem or finding one already written for you. if your a very creative person, you can write your own material, but if your not creative, you probably do not want to take the chance of using your own words, you could destroy the whole idea. So, the best thing to do would be to surf the internet for the best romantic love poem that suits you best or maybe something you seem to agree with more.

Just by typing the word "Romantic Love Poems" in your favorite search engine you would get thousand of results to choose from, you could also use the word love poems, even though its a bit broad you would still get some decent results. Then search through the material cause there's going to be a whole lot of it, and find that perfect romantic love poem for your special partner. Put it in an email, subject a romantic I love you poem. You can guarantee whoever see's that is going to open it as soon as they can, just waiting to see what you have written.

The secret they will never know if you wrote the poem, or had someone else do it for you, so make sure when you find a romantic love poem for you and her that it will not be so easy for them to find aswell, just in case they do search to see if you did write it or not.

Romantic love poems are on of the most efficient way's of expressing your true love to that special person in your life. If you would like more info about romantic love poems please visit the site. 2flavorlove.com